SUPPORTING
UPSET/GRIEVING FRIENDS
Your intentions
are good!
You genuinely feel
the sorrow of the other person.
And off you go to
make a call or a visit
THEN YOU DO IT
TOTALLY WRONG!
Awww, but I had
good intents
Yes you do but,
When a friend,
colleague, family or a loved one is:
Grieving the loss
of someone or something dear,oss of a job, or
Going through a rejection
e.t.c
All they need is
SUPPORT.
When commiserating
or grieving with someone,
Don’t:
Ever say you know
how they feel-IF YOU REALLY DON’T
Contradict how
they feel (Make them know they have the right to feel the way they do)
Ever make it about
you (don’t say ‘just like when I ------)
Don’t add any
advice- it is wrong to say ‘If you had tried this, then this will never happen’
ALWAYS UNDERSTAND:
That the grieving
person is not you, so:
- Learn to just sit there and allow them be
- Squeeze their hand, rub their backs,
- Give a huge teddy bear hug,
- Learn to listen without interrupting.
- Offer your support and time
- Run errands for them,
- Give them privacy if they asked for it.
- Be genuine in your communication and don’t hide your feelings.
- Unless they ask for your opinion, don’t give it
I Love You!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi
Gbenga-Dada
©2018
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