How much do you worth! (1)

How much do you worth! (1)

How much do you worth?
What value do you place on yourself?
Who are you to you?
This is self-esteem!

Self-esteem is self-regard,
It is faith in one self, it is self-respect!

Low self-esteem is when you lack confidence in yourself,
It is when you feel unworthy, ugly, incompetent or incapable,
Infact, a person with low self-esteem feels so poorly about him or herself.

How do you know you have low self-esteem?
If you do the below, then you lack self-confidence:

Negative Thinking
Fewer expectations from life
Inability to take or appreciate compliments
Inability to let go of bad past experiences
Always jealous/envious
Blaming & Critical
Keeping silent, when you should talk
Excessive worry and anxiety
Not thankful when people show you generosity
Always resentful
Makes everyone happy expect him or herself
Listen to everyone’s opinion
Always Pessimistic
Always Judgemental.

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.”
― Harvey Fierstein

“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
― Mark Twain

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2019

Making the right Decision

Making the right Decision

Who and what you are today are the product of so many things, major of which is the decision you or others made on your behalf yesterday or years past,
Decisions are vital to our existence if we really want to live a fulfilled life,
We make decisions daily on little events like:
What to eat, drink, wear,
Where to go, who to call
And major ones like:
Who to marry,
Career/business/Vocation to choose,
Where to reside,
Who to make friends with,
Whether to leave a relationship,
When to resign and start your own business, etc.
Making the right decision can be hard, but doable.

Make sure before making any decision, you think about:
How it will affect your future, your family and others,
How it will affect your generation and country.
The advantages and losses of your decision.

Want to make a right decision? You need to:
Relax and take your time (avoid overthinking)
Ask God for help
Get information about the subject matter
Write down your fears about the situation
Pay attention to all red flags
Identify worse case scenarios
List all alternatives.
Pay attention to your instincts (But do not allow instincts dominate you)
Organise your thoughts
Talk to a wise trusted friend, partner, family etc.
Give advice to yourself as if you are giving it to a friend.

You will know you made the right decision when you pick the hardest and most painful choice but you heart is at peace- Anonymous

You are free to make whatever choice you want, but you are not free from the consequences of the choice-Anonymous

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2019

GET IT DONE WITHOUT NAGGING!

GET IT DONE WITHOUT NAGGING!

Nagging is when you’re constantly and persistently harassing someone to do something,
Nagging is complaining and criticizing,
Nagging is also unceasingly urging an individual to complete earlier debated requests or act on information.

Nagging can be tormenting, agonising and grievous.
A nagging person complains about everything and anything.
Nagging doesn’t make people do things for you out of respect but out of fear of torment.

Men nag, so do women, but women do it more.
A nagging woman or man make his/her spouse farther emotionally and physically.
Nagging destroys relationships.
Don’t drive people away from you by your constant nags.
Most people who nag are unobservant and never contented.

YOU CAN GET THINGS DONE WITHOUT BADGERING/NAGGING!

Nagging can be stopped!

All you need to do is to:

Know that nobody likes to be nagged.
Know you’re not right, you are just angry.
Find more productive ways to communicate instead of repetition.
Learn to compromise once in a while.
Think about what you want to say before saying it.
Accentuate others positives instead of dwelling on their negatives.
Communicate what you want through your action- I mean, practice what you preach!

“You have got a sharp tongue, haven't you honey? You'll have to watch it or you'll go to a lonely spinster's grave.”
― Margaret Way

“Make sure that your heartfelt thanksgiving is more consistent than your nagging needs and your passionate apology fervent than your unhealthy justifications. Be clean and hopeful.”
― Israelmore Ayivor

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2019

Friendship Series (3)

Friendship Series (3)

Letting friends go?

So, now you are married,
So, now you have more money,
Better job,
Better cars,
Better clothes and shoes
Or you just gained admission or received NYSC call-up.

Now, your good friends aint good anymore,
You just made friend with your new status, husband and achievements...etc

This is Good!

But,
My Dear,
Its lonely up there!

Friends are not only for bad or low times,
They are also for good times.
Don’t abandon your friends because you are now high up there
It is WRONG to.

Please, stick to your friends, no matter what.
YOU WILL NEED THEM ONE DAY,
Yes, you will.

But, do not make them priority over your home/family.

What of if you know some friends will have negative influence on the new level/status you are in?

Then move a bit farther from them, if they really like you,
They will reach out and you can spell the terms of your friendship,
If they don’t, then let go.

If you have friends who are NOT:
Ungodly
Opportunist
Self-Centered
Too clingy
Fake &Hypocrites
Dominating
Enemies to your progress.

PLEASE STICK TO THEM!

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2019

Friendship Series (2)

What Kind Of Friend are You?

I have terrible friends 
They stab me behind
They gossip about me
They do not seek my good,
They are even looking for my downfall.

If such despicable people are your friends, Then who are you?

MOST times, we attract our types to ourselves.
If you are a loyal, committed and loving person,
Your friends will likely have 60% or more of your attributes.
But if you are selfish, cold and unloving, most of your friends will be like you.

One who needs friends must first show himself/herself friendly.
Real friendship begins with you.
Don’t be the parasite in a relationship
Friendship where both sides bring values to table last longer.
Maturity is needed if you were meant to have a real and solid relationship.
Ensure you build maturity:

Spiritually,
Character wise,
Information wise,
Emotionally,
Career Wise,
In Loyalty
Etc.
Also, learn to stop being flippant with secrets.

You are a real friend if you love unconditionally without taking status into consideration.
Show me who you are and I will tell you who your friends will be.

Are you a true and real friend?

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2017

Friendship Series (1)

WHO ARE YOUR FRIENDS?

Friends are the siblings God never gave us-Mencius
No man can live in Isolation,
We all need a friend in life’s journey.
Someone who understands us,
Who is always there,
Who cares about us,
Someone we can run to when we need support and a shoulder to cry on.

Don’t ever make the mistake of thinking you need no one!
Your friend can be older, younger, richer, poorer, fatter, slimmer, taller or shorter than you are.
In friendship, status, looks and age is not a barrier.
All that is important is ‘at home feeling’ with someone.

Do not let disappointments by past friends close your eyes to REAL, GOOD AND COOL friends around you.

Choose your friends wisely.
You will know if someone is a true and real friend,
If he/she:
Inspires you,
Encourages you,
Respects you (your family and your privacy)
Stands by you in ALL circumstance,
Trusts you,
Tells you the truth, however hurting it is
Fights for you/defends you behind your back

I have many great friends! Do you?

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2017

Super Woman, Super Hero!

I love women that are successful!
I love more, women that are happily married and successful!
I love even more women that are happily married, successful and serve mankind!
I love the most women that are happily married, successful, serve mankind and have integrity!

This is why my musing today is on:
My ‘Mum’, friend and supporter: Hon. Folashade Shinkaiye!
It’s her Birthday today!
This woman will just not leave me; she is too interested in my life for her not to be celebrated.
Today I want you to learn from what I learnt from my Super Woman:

Humility: Anyone, Anywhere to her is the same.
To my great woman, the less privilege and the rich is to be treated equally. She can hug anyone no matter how dirty they look.

Service to Humanity, she feel so unfulfilled if she is not helping anyone per time, for her na by force to help o. using her money, home and all to help means nothing.
She has taken care of more children who aren’t hers biologically than most women I know.

Devotion, Commitment & Integrity: Her devotion to her job as the then Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development in Kogi State is so uncommon, she goes to the ministry on time and returns late like the normal private job. In Naija, which civil servant does that?

Family love: Her love for her family and siblings is so inspiring!
This and many more are the good virtues I learnt from this valuable woman.

Happy Birthday Mum!
When you call one, thousands will answer! May GOD preserve you and shield you from evil arrows.
May your life continue to please God.
Welcome to your year of Elevation!

Please, celebrate my Super Woman and Super Hero with me

I Love you!
My Thursday Musings
Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
©2017