The Blame Game (1)

Everyone except you is the cause of your misfortune,

When you slip, you blame the floor for being slippery,
Not yourself for not being careful.

When you burn the meal, you blame the cooker for burning too fast,
Not yourself for leaving the kitchen while cooking.

We blame others for everything, for being married to the wrong person to being single, for divorcing, for your children misbehavior, for failing your exams, for not being admitted to the higher institution, for bad relationships, in fact, for everything.

It is always easier to blame someone else than to accept responsibilities.

You blame others because:
*We always have a natural deep need to explain
*Our bad feeling is gotten rid of if we heap them on others
*The blame game is a defence mechanism that stops you from accepting your flaws or failings.
*Blaming others feeds your need to control
*Also, we learn it from our parents and others around us
*Blame protects your ego as it put you in a more superior position

When you are an expert at blaming others, you lose:
*Your personal growth
*Power because making everything everyone’s fault makes you powerless
*Healthy relationships
*Positive influence on others

Blame hurts others
STOP THE BLAME GAME:

• Accept responsibility for your actions
• Work harder on your self-esteem.
• Control the urge to tell the story of your past to an untrusted fellow as it increases the chances of putting the blame of your woes on another.

“Be so strong that no one can ignore you. By blaming others, you never win, but you do lose to your conscience again and again.” ― Debasish Mridha

“You can get discouraged many times, but you are not a failure until you begin to blame somebody else and stop trying.” ― John Burroughs

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Olukemi Gbenga-Dada
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