Which Way Nigeria?

 I don't and will never support violence or looting!

But, recent happenings in Nigeria has given me sleepless nights more than I have ever experienced.

My (emphasis on MY) submissions are many but will be reduced because of limited space:

• Nigerian leaders past and present have failed us and refused to give us solid leadership.

• You have to know who you are fighting and plan the right strategy to fight- Some government needs just dialogue and peaceful protest, some just needed to be voted out of government.

• The developing nations are notable for hijacks of peaceful protests by miscreants.

• When people are angry, all reasonability will be lost- So avoid letting your followers get to that 'anger' state.

• We cannot fight a failed nation or insensitive leaders with emotions. (strategy, organised focus , planning and intense prayers is the key)

• Social media is still and will always be a viable tool to fight for our rights as a people.

• We cannot fight injustice by violating the law. We can't afford to be lawless followers to lawless leaders. (If we are, then we would be bringing ourselves low to their debased state)

• The citizenry will suffer from the aftermath of looting and burning of businesses and houses than the government we are fighting.

• Sensibility and responsibility to others enables you to avoid sharing fake or unverified information to avoid inciting unnecessary war.

So,

Nigerian youths, let us arise, fight intellectually, be involved in politics, be involved in law making.

Go to public hearings and speak out for yourself and the future.

Plan your way up to Leadership, the solution to Nigeria's problem is and will always be good leadership and until we the youths start strategizing and supporting ourselves to climb leadership ladders in the country, alot won't change.

Believe me, the intellectual revolution is going on, and that has to come first before you see the political changes. That's where I'm very optimistic.-Ron Paul

I love you!

My Thursday Musings

Olukemi Gbenga-Dada

©2022

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Be Kind to Yourself

A lot of times, many who are very kind, to their family, friends, neighbours, even to people they don't know are NOT kind when it comes to themselves.

We forgive and give to others easily while we find it really hard to forgive and give ourselves the best.

We overwork ourselves, yet advise others to take it easy.

We expend our energy on training and helping others and forget we also matter.

Many times, we think self-compassion or self-kindness is selfishness, laziness, self-pity or self-obsession.

IT IS NOT!

Self Kindness is such a powerful force that heals your mind, body and soul, it also teaches you how to treat others.

My Darling, no matter what you are going through, be kind to yourself:

• Breath

• Forgive yourself

• Create a regular God and me time

• Talk to yourself compassionately- Self-Talks

• Rest

• Go swimming

• Intentionally stay away from negative people

• Treat yourself to a self-care weekend (Spa sessions, Manicure, Pedicure, Face treatment, Sauna bath etc.)

• Buy that shirt, dress or shoe you love so much

• Eat that food you've been craving

Go above and beyond for yourself! You do it for family, friends, and colleagues, but don’t forget about YOU. It’s important to include yourself… You are worthy of your own kindness, too! -Stephanie Lahart

Kindness is in vogue. Be kind to yourself.- Wesam Fawzi

I Love You!

My Thursday Musings

Olukemi Gbenga-Dada

©2022

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Be Kind to Others

It has been said that looks or behaviour will never fully capture the tortures of the heart.

A well dressed or badly dressed lady

A silent/bubbly man

A withdrawn/outgoing teenager

A quiet/loud little boy or girl

You can't really know. While you can guess sometimes, it is impossible to fully know the depth of people's pain.

What can one then do than to be kind.

Be kind with your words and actions!

Someone who has added or lost weight might be on medications

That always forward man or woman might be hiding a deep loss or pain.

Even that suddenly sharp tongued person might be hurting deeply.

Children or teenagers who become withdrawn all of a sudden might be fighting low self esteem, bullying and other issues.

Today, decide to be kind:

• Think before you say that word, or make that facial expression.

• Stop reading meaning to everything people do- many are not even conscious of the things you are complaining about

• Express empathy when people confide in you- know when to advise and when to just listen and hug.

• Tell people how valuable they are to you- you might be saving a life.

• Share your little (time, kind words, finances etc.)with someone.

“Kindness is love made visible...”—M. Swanepoel

'Kindness has a beautiful way of reaching down into a weary heart and making it shine like the rising sun'- Unknown

I Love You!

My Thursday Musings

Olukemi Gbenga-Dada

©2022